Time away
February 10, 2009 by Marci
My husband and I got away by ourselves for a couple days last week. We both needed time away from work and kids and responsibilities. But, most of all, we needed time to be together! Sometimes after kids come and careers get going, its hard for couples to remember why they fell in love in the first place. They get into the mom and dad and career person and volunteer and whatever roles, and then its hard to find time to just be themselves! People just get BUSY!
When couples are married, God says they are now one flesh. That is easy to feel and remember early in the marriage. As time goes on and life happens, it can get more difficult. For starters, men take pride in their work and women take pride in their home (even those who work outside the home). That right there can be where couples start drifting away if they don’t appreciate those things about each other. Then, add kids and long hours away from each other to the mix. The close relationship that started this whole thing can start to fade. Time away from it all, even if just a day, can remind us of what brought us together and why. It is amazing what can happen between a husband and wife when all life’s distractions are removed. Couples can let their guard down and enjoy being with each other. It recharges both of them and resets something within that got off balance along the way. They can both get on the same page of the book of their life together. When a man and wife are on the same page, suddenly confusing areas of life become so clear.
I cannot explain the peace and clarity of thought that came out of our time away. Imagine a few days with no appointments, no computers, no alarm clocks, no housework, no kids…nothing demanding your time. Lots of time to think, but also lots of opportunity to realize what is really important to us.
Now that we are back to reality, I can see some areas of our lives that my husband and I should take a closer look at. I realize that there are some activities and responsibilities that are “good” things in themselves, but they are just not the “best” things for our family right now. When we are in the midst of our daily grind, we sometimes can’t see the forest for the trees. What seems normal and necessary may not really be. Take some time out to step back and evaluate what is most important in your life. Get on the same page as your spouse. God made you one. Now, act like it!
